Picking the Right Wedding Band: 5 Things You Need to Know

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Music is the life of any party, weddings included. Events planners and wedding coordinators say that wedding bands or DJs should be one of the first things to book. Months or weeks ahead would be best, but that is often not the case. Couples usually focus on the venue for the ceremony, the reception, food, flowers, photographers and other vendors. They think of booking a band afterwards. By that time, it’s too late.
They may not get the band that they like, or they may have to book one at a more expensive price. You don’t have to put up with a band you don’t like if you book early.

Where Do You Find a Band?

Bands don’t normally go around and advertise themselves as “wedding bands”. What usually happens is that a couple goes to a gig or an event where a band is playing. If they happen to like how they sound or how they “jam”, then they inquire if they can play at their wedding
In cases where an events planner is in charge of wedding preparations, they show some tapes or videos of the bands in action. They then ask the couple which one they think is closest to their preference in terms of style and song choice.
This is important because not all couples want a full on dance party during their reception. While some of the guests may be after lively entertainment, there are guests who may want something softer or romantic. It is up to the couple to strike a balance between keeping their guests on their feet or wearing them out.

Questions You Need to Ask

1. Ask them if you can choose songs from the band play list?

While couples would love to create their own play list, it’s impossible for any band to know each and every song. What is more practical, however, is for the couple to select titles from the bands set lists. This way, they won’t have to learn extra songs just for one event. You can customize the play list to match different points in the reception such dancing after dinner, and slow romantic songs towards the end.

2. What About Music Between Set?

Bands normally play 2 to 3 sets during weddings and take 15-minute breaks between sets. It would be more practical to have the band prepare some recorded music and play it during the breaks. Some bands charge extra for this, so it is best to discuss it up front. Alternatively, you can play your own iPod with a special play list. Most often than not, these are songs which mean something to the couple. In other instances, they play their parents’ favorite songs, which is a sweet and sentimental thing to do during a wedding reception.

3. Can We Do a “First Dance” Song?

The first dance is one of the highlights of the wedding reception. The band usually opens their set with this song. This can be the Father-Daughter dance which eventually ends up as the couple’s first dance as well. Most bands accommodate a special song request for the first dance. If this song is not included in their repertoire, it will be good to inform the band of the title weeks in advance. This will give them enough time to learn the song and add their own unique spin to it.

4. Does Your Band Meet the Requirements of the Venue?

Most wedding reception venues have a sound limiter which could seriously cramp the band’s style. However, wedding venues have set this up to prevent noise issues with the neighbors or establishments set up in the area. There’s no problem if the event is being held at a hotel, but other venues have to comply with zoning rules. If the reception is being held at home, make sure that you have plenty of space at the backyard or gazebo for the band to set up. Most bands will also carry a small generator and other equipment so prepare a small room or holding place for them before and in between performances.

5. How Long Do You Play?

On the average, a wedding band plays for 2 x 45 minute sets. However, there are some who can play for three sets – or until midnight. By then the last of the guest are expected to have left. As mentioned earlier, there are 15-minute breaks in between sets. At some point the band members also have to have dinner and refreshments.
These are five of the most important questions that couples should ask a wedding band before hiring them. But remember, the band is just there during the reception. Couples might also consider some elegant and softer music during cocktail hour just to keep the guests entertained.

Be Your Fabulous Self: A Guide to Surviving Cocktail Parties

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Cocktail events are a staple in New York and other cities. It’s chic, easy to plan, and can take place in galleries, ballrooms, or upscale bars.

Word of warning: there’s nothing casual or laid back about cocktail events. If you don’t know what to do at these social gatherings, read on.

  • Dress Up for the Occasion – Cocktail parties still follow a dress code. While it isn’t a black tie affair, men are still expected to wear a coat or at least a dinner jacket. Women, on the other hand, should wear cocktail dresses and matching heels. Cocktail dresses usually have hemlines ranging from mid-thigh to just above the knees. It’s not a requirement to wear black, but dark colors are better than pastel ones. Keep accessories to a minimum; and remember, less is always tasteful.
  • Know Why You’re There and Arrive on Time – It could be a corporate event, a product launch, a charity ball, or a fund raiser. The point is to be aware of what event you are attending and what time it starts. Arriving fashionably late can be very awkward, especially if you make a dramatic entrance with all eyes on you. To be on the safe side, arrive at the venue 5-10 minutes early.
  • Drink, Don’t Guzzle – The phrase “open bar” sounds extremely appealing, but there’s no need to be greedy. Whether you’re attending a business function or a wedding reception, it’s considered polite to have only one drink at a time. Sip each drink slowly. After you’ve finished, politely ask the bartender for another one – never two.
  • Mingle and Socialize – Cocktail parties are social gatherings. When attending one, try to talk to people other than your circle of friends or coworkers. Go around and mingle. If it’s a corporate function, be sure to bring plenty of business cards. When accepting business cards from someone you’ve just met, make sure to read the name and title before keeping it inside a card case. It’s not polite to shove a business card inside your bag, or tuck it inside a book.
  • Don’t Take Photos of the Buffet – It’s a fun thing to do at weddings, but not during formal functions. It’s also considered crass to take pictures of your plate. If possible, keep the selfies and groufies to a minimum.
  • Don’t Hang Out at the Bar – Even if you aren’t enjoying the party, make an effort to socialize and talk to people. Hanging out by the bar and starting a long conversation with the bartender doesn’t look too good. You can take a stroll around the event venue with a drink in hand, or go out for some fresh air.
  • Don’t Overstay Your Welcome – Cocktail events normally don’t last all night, so make sure you aren’t the last one to leave. Before you go, look for the host and thank them for the invite. Being courteous and polite will ensure that you’ll get invited to more events in the future.

Following these unwritten social rules can help save you from embarrassing situations. These are just general guidelines, though. It should never take precedence over being yourself and having fun at an event.

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